The Possibility of Homeschooling

If you had told me 10 years ago, that I’d be 30 years old with a 3 month old and considering the thought of homeschooling him, I’d have thought you were crazy.

But alas, here I am.

The possibility of homeschooling is a topic that my fiancé and I have been discussing recently. We have quite a few reasons for opting going the home school route.

Safety

It’s sad that this even has to be considered. With all of these school shootings happening, school is just not a safe place for a child. There seems to be nothing effective being done about it. And I’m not just talking about recently.

Columbine happened nearly 20 years ago. And yet, here we are, with no changes being made and the rate at which shootings happen on the rise.

I don’t feel comfortable sending my son to school in that kind of environment. It doesn’t matter where we live or what kind of school he goes to. It can happen anywhere.

The mere thought of losing my son in such a violent manner shatters me.

Bullying

Another huge headline topic when it comes to children is bullying. Now, I understand that bullying has been happening for decades. Minor bullying is expected. But what’s happening today is not minor bullying.

With the use of technology, children can no longer escape their bullies. They can’t go home and have a safe space away from them. These bullies can target them through technology: whether it’s social media or video games.

Now, I have my own opinion on his use of technology. But eventually, he will use it and it will be a part of his life.

Kids, young kids, are becoming so distraught and torn down by bullying that they choose to end their lives. That’s traumatic! I can’t imagine my son going through that.

What bothers me most of all, is that there is little being done about it at the school level. Sure, there are tons of organizations that promote anti-bullying. But as far as I can tell, schools don’t do a whole lot about it.

Now, I’m not trying to say that none of the schools are doing anything. But, enough of them aren’t to make it a cause for concern.

The Education System

Lack of funding in public schools and common core at at the top of my list for my issues with the education system.

It’s appalling to me that we don’t provide supplies for children. No one would be where they are without education. And yet, not enough people seem to care. (At least, those that are in positions of power making decisions).

A casualty of funding are creative programs like art and music. Even extra-curricular activities like clubs cut. These are important parts of an education. They have value and they matter.

Field trips also don’t make the cut when crunching numbers. Learning hands on is important! Especially for small children, getting outside the classroom helps connect them to real-life examples.

A Story That Stuck With Me

I recently read a story about a young boy that had a teacher that caused some pretty irreparable damage to his development.

The story was told by the boys sisters (let’s call this boy Charlie). Charlie loved to give children hugs. He was just a very affection boy! But, he was smart about it. He would ask before just hugging someone.

Charlie’s teacher discouraged this behavior. And she didn’t just discourage it, she singled him out in class for his behavior.

Despite Charlie’s parents speaking with the administration on multiple occasions and having them speak with the teacher, the behavior didn’t stop.

Sadly, nothing else could be done. He wasn’t able to change classrooms and this teacher clearly didn’t stop her bullying behavior.

Because of that experience, Charlie ended up hating school and he stopped being so affectionate.

This teacher squashed this little boy’s spirit. That sickens me. I know there are great teachers out there. I’ve had them and I’ve known them.

But teachers like this really make it difficult to learn and can have a damaging effect on a child.

This is just a story that really stuck with me lately. I would be incredibly destroyed if someone did this to my son.

My Plan

Hopefully, by the time my son is of school-age, we will be in a financial situation where I am able to home school him full-time. We’re working on getting there right now.

I want my son to have the type of education that I had. I want to take him to museums, aquariums & zoos, and historical landmarks.

I want to teach him art and music.

Now, I know there’s a stigma that children that are homeschooled are un-socialized. (Frankly, I thought that, too). But there are plenty of ways for my son to spend time with other kids!

Our church has a great children’s program. There are support groups of parents of homeschoolers that we can connect with. I want to get him involved in community programs, like sports and music.

I’m confident that this is the best decision I can make for my child.

 

Share with me! Do you home school your children? Are you planning to when your children are older? 

 

 

5 thoughts on “The Possibility of Homeschooling

  1. It’s great that you are taking the time to consider your son’s future and what’s best for him. I’m sure that no matter what you decide, your son will thrive because of your thoughtful care.

    I have a bit of a unique background. I was homeschooled as a kid for religious reasons, and overall, I had a really positive experience. My mom let me direct a lot of my own education and that helped me develop my love of learning. I had a lot of extracurricular activities to make friends, including sports, dance, and children’s plays, so I didn’t feel lonely. We also joined some homeschooling groups which helped organize things like group field trips and bigger projects. I think homeschooling was the best thing for me. I stuck with it through high school, attended community college, and then transferred for a four-year university to finish my bachelor’s degree.

    On the other hand, my step kids both went to public school, by their own choice. We are fortunate to live in a nice school district, and they had some opportunities through school that I might not have been able to provide for them at home. We had trouble for a few years with my youngest, my step son, when he was bullied by some other boys, and for a while, we talked about homeschooling as an alternative. But he ended up founding a support group at his school and now he helps other kids deal with bullying issues, too. I’m really proud of him for stepping up.

    In the end, I think different types of schooling are suited for different kids. Unfortunately, not everyone has the opportunity or financial means to choose the one that’s best for them. Your son is young and it’s probably too soon to tell where he would fit. But you have time to research all of your options and think about it as he grows older and you can see what his learning style is. No choice is perfect, of course, and I do hope that our public school systems can improve on issues like safety and funding in future years.

    Good luck!

    • Thank you so much for your input! It really helps to hear experiences from both sides. I’m glad to hear there are homeschooling groups like that that do field trips. That’s awesome!!

      And that’s incredibly that your stepson founded a group like that! He’s definitely a leader & it sounds like he’s on the road to great success in his life.

  2. It seems like most of your reasons for considering homeschooling are negative. Homeschooling has been a wonderful decision for our family as it allowed us more time to together, a flexible schedule, and the ability to work at the pace of the kids. But public schools aren’t all bad. We’ve sent to two of our children to high school. Homeschooling is a joy even while exhausting and terrifying but so is raising kids! Good luck with your decision and congrats on your new sweet baby.

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