This is a story I’ve wanted to share for a long time now. I’m so excited to share it with you because it makes me incredibly happy.
A Little Background Information
Meeting my boyfriend honestly felt like a dream come true. There was (and still is) no doubt that he is who I was meant to be with in this life. And the best part? He feels exactly the same way.
In January 2017, my boyfriend and I had been together for 6 months. He had decided the previous October to join the Army National Guard. While at first I was supportive of his choice, I found myself not too fond of being away from him for 4 months. But, I kept up the supportive girlfriend role.
He went away. I’ve never felt worse in my entire life. I no longer had my best friend to talk to, to touch, to enjoy every moment with. Luckily, he was medically discharged (something both he and I were extremely thrilled about). He came back home in early February and we couldn’t have been happier.
I won’t go into great detail, but he ultimately realized that he had made a mistake in joining and that his place was at home with me and his family. He had a newfound appreciation for his “boring” little life.
Fast Forward To April 2017
I’d been on the pill since November 2016. In January, my period had been very messed up, it was just very light and didn’t last as long as usual. I attributed it all to being stressed. I took a few pregnancy tests to ease my mind and they turned up negative.
In February, I didn’t get a period. I took tests and nothing.
March rolls around and after I finished my pack of birth control, (which ended on April 1st – a Saturday) I waited for my period to come. It didn’t.
My boyfriend and I bought a test and on Friday morning, we took it.
It was positive.
What Went Through My Mind
I was in shock, but we were both incredibly excited! After all, I’m 29 and he’s 34. We aren’t silly teenagers. We’re stable adults who already had plans on being together for the long-haul.
I’ll admit, there was a part of me for a long time that wondered whether I could even have children. I think it’s just something we all kind of fear as what might happen. And considering how promiscuous (and careless) I was in my college years, I had my suspicions that I must have been infertile.
Truth be told, I had also been a little nervous that I was getting older and might have trouble conceiving due to that. Remember that episode of FRIENDS where Rachel celebrates her 30th birthday and starts thinking about what she wants in her life? That was me. I was doing the math and getting nervous.
So when I found out I was pregnant, the fear of being infertile or that I would end up being too old just washed away from me. My dreams of having a family were a reality.
Was this how I envisioned my first child being conceived? Unmarried, not-too-stable in a job, and not a homeowner? No. But suddenly those “plans” didn’t matter to me. What mattered was that my dream of having a family were coming true. And the best part? I wasn’t in it alone. Not by a long shot.
Now, don’t bail on me now because I’m going to get “all religious” on you. That’s not what I’m about – I don’t believe in pushing religion. But, I do believe that God (insert who/what you believe here) intervened to give me a baby.
Remember how I said my boyfriend had been gone for the month of January and came back early February? After visiting my doctor for the first time for my pregnancy, we discovered the date of conception. It was one day after my boyfriend came home.
Okay, sure, this could be a coincidence. But I don’t choose to believe it that way. I believe that someone was out there, looking down us, thinking how we have both been through so much in our love lives and now we’ve finally found each other. We finally have what we’ve always wanted and we’ve waited long enough.
Because, really, how often do people who are religious about taking their pill end up pregnant? My sister, for example, has been trying to get pregnant for almost a year now and, sadly, nothing has happened for her.
My Silver Lining
For so long, I wondered if my life would ever come to be what I had always wanted it to be. I now finally feel like everything is falling into place for me. I couldn’t be happier about it.
(I probably should tell you here that my boyfriend is actually now my fiancé).
Needless to say, I’m incredibly thrilled with this next chapter in my life. It’ll be difficult, I’m sure, but it’ll also be the most exciting, life-changing chapter I’ve had yet.